What Makes A Best Friend

What Makes A Best Friend

Have you a best friend? What qualities should a best friend have? In this article I am going to be writing about what constitutes a best friend, I myself have had a number of best friends in my life of which only one has stood the test of time.
Your best friend should be somebody that you can trust one hundred percent. You should be able to confide in them knowing that they will not spread your news to other people. How many times have told a friend a piece of personal information and have then asked them not to tell anybody else about it? The sheer fact that you had to ask them not to tell other people should tell you that they are not best friend material.

All of us have stages of our life when we really need a friend. We may be in trouble, we may have done a terrible deed, what we require in this situation is somebody to support us, listen to our problems, offer advice, possibly a room to spend the night but most of all not to judge us. We all make mistakes; after all we are all human. A best friend will offer all of these things, without hesitation.

We all need somebody to be able to phone from time to time, just for a chat, somebody who will make us laugh and ultimately happy. We all need to have the odd night out, perhaps at the cinema, perhaps to go for a drink or perhaps to go to the theatre. A best friend will be the person to call and will make time for us in these situations.
A best friend will not stab you in the back by attempting to steal your boy/girlfriend, they will not spread rumors about you, you should be able to trust them with your life.
Does your best friend have the qualities mentioned above? If the answer is no, this does not mean that you need to dump this person totally, it merely means that you should not be regarding them as a best friend.

One of my best friend that I have know since the middle 1960’s as this person was born around April 5th, 1960 and I meet the family of my first wife in 1961. As time went by and after serving in the Army for 2 years, and a tour of Vietnam in 1965 one of my best friends at that time was a female, and I will not give any name in this story. I ended up marrying this person and we had 2 wonderful children and today 6 Grandchildren from the 2 kids we raised and they turned out great, no drinking, drugs etc.

Over time, I meet my first wife family, aunts, uncles, cousins, in-laws and some outlaws haha..!! Plus, I got along with them; some times better than my wife did, because she loved to talk or diarrhea of the mouth, running all the time. Now that was not funny and I should have not said that, but some of her own family member said that to me. But she meat well in what she said and did, you just had to get use to it, or just forget it.

Her cousins seemed to be good kids when they were younger, but as they got older, one of the cousins got in trouble with drugs and one thing lead to another and finally ended up in jail for a few years. Then when he got out, he visited us in Aurora, Colorado and started right off the bat with stealing prescriptions RX tablet sheets and writing his own RX and using them for his drug habit. It didn’t take long before he got caught and back to jail again. One of the girl cousins got pregnant at an early age and had a daughter, and the guy that got her into a mother way left the scene fast and was history. As what I heard with the story, she didn’t want the child or baby and her dad decided to take the baby under his wing and raise her until she got the age of 18 and his wife said that will be just fine.

Well they raised her until she got to the age of 17 years old and in the mean while the other cousin as we got older, ended up working together with contract work in different states. I found out how fast a great friend as he was to me, start to go down hill over the years, as he love to drink and run around to the bars and try to pick up woman and wanted me to go with him. I did that once in California, Texas with him and one time in Colorado and decided that was not for me, as I was married at that time with his Aunt.

As this young girl that the father raised for 17 years came down with cancer and before he died he visited Colorado with other family member and wanted for sure to visit with me in Colorado too. As the father was the best true friend for life and I went to visit him and the family in 1980 and he had tears in his eyes as I left from the airport to come back to Colorado. And that is how close we were all them years until he died. I got him into amateur Radio during the late 1960’s and had fun all over the world talking on with other Ham Radios.

18 years later we ran into each other over the Internet and before we did that, I wrote him a letter and included my email address and that did it. We email each other for 2 years, telling stories from the past to the present and photos were traded off with each other with the email’s He had told me that he had 3 black sheep in the family and said WHAT? I know of one, but not the other. The other cousin that did not want to take care of her own child as he said she was a lazy bum. The other one was an over educated idiot that was a drunk. And of course the drug attic that could not make out in the world and wanted to stay in jail.

I have not heard for the over educated idiot, as his dad put it for a couple months later by email, and I ask him what he was up too? He told me that he bought a new corvette and condo along the beach in Florida. I ask him, what did you do? Hit the lotto for a lot of money and he answered yes. Great for you. And that was the last time I heard from him. Later, I found out after his Dad passed away, his Mom moved to Florida too, maybe to be with other family member which at that time was 4 that I knew about?

Now, I know were the money came from, as he drained his own Mom with some money that is Dad had left in the will, as his sister did too, as she lived in Treasure Island Florida. Now the boy cousin in Fort Lauderdale, Florida. As he is an owner of a big yacht and live in the water with a boyfriend.

I ran across him on Face Book and got alone with him, until his Mom had died of cancer in Florida. I know he is having a time dealing with that, or maybe guilty of what he did?

One day, he asked me why I had 2 accounts with Face Book and I explained what the screw up was and then I deleted it, which I was trying to find out how to do that.
Then next, ask me why I was added some many things on my wall of my face book and also said, to get a life. That did it, in the first place he should have never opened his mouth and stuffed his foot in it and tell me what I can put on my own face book. One thing lead to another and I told him mind his own business, then he go mad and took me off his Face Book and that what you call a best friend, well he just cut his own throat. My gain and his lose. The story of his life is a real true loser. Never had a girlfriend very long never got married and now he is 50 years old, too late dud……!!! Name with held, as the person, all ready know who I am…..Thanks.

Remember: A True Friend ~ Give You A Push. When You Need It, Left You Up When You Feel Low, Guides You The Right Way, And Never Lets You Down…!!